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Old Dec 27, 2011, 10:10 PM
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Originally Posted by learningtoaccept View Post
This is a tough difference between us. I am working on getting meds for my social phobia and will be starting a group in February. It's just that we spend a lot of time together and he likes to spend his free time socializing as much as possible. We had a small argument the other day because he took me to his friend's party and when we left I told him I would not be returning to the next one. I had to explain my social phobia that night, so it's a new piece of information to him. It doesn't matter what we are doing though, we could be shopping in another city and he somehow knows the people working in the stores. And then I have to stand uncomfortably beside him while he has a conversation, which I've told him I don't want to do and he suggested I "join in the conversation." So, I guess he still has a hard time understanding how it makes me feel. I know I personally have to work on it though, so what can I do right now to help?
I have it too and this is a tough bridge to gap. I don't know what to tell you, unfortunately, I've avoided romantic relationships my whole life because of this very thing. I am working on trying to find someone who is at least a little shy.

Maybe you can at least take comfort in knowing that he does want you to come with him to parties and introduce you to his friends...meaning he didn't think you were embarrassing or "had a problem" before you shared about your disorder with him. Have you taken him to anything you like to do?