My husband and I have been pretty severe alcoholics since late May of 2008... a few days after my mother's death. He has a family history of alcoholism, and grew up with somewhat deadbeat alcoholic parents... and I have been drinking to avoid thinking about the loss of my best friend, my mom.

I have brought it up several times, trying in my most endearing, casual, and unoffensive way to tell him we both have a serious problem. He is stuck on the 'we can stop anytime' excuse... though we did briefly quit drinking for a few months, mostly because he had health problems... and once they were cured we got sucked right back in.

I am so frustrated with the situation. I can't stop him, nor can I control my own cravings. I have noticed that my complexion, moods, social skills... all improved during those few months we did not drink. I still wake up every day hungover, grumpy, and disgusted with myself.

If anyone has a suggestion, I am open. Please keep in mind I have tried to do the serious chat with him, but my casual nature and his 'whatever bro' attitude has made it impossible for him to consider me seriously. It has actually gotten to a point where I hope for something detrimental to happen to me so that he will snap out of it and take me seriously...

Thanks in advance!