Hi Jay,

I totally feel for you as I am still feeling the effects of a breakup myself which happened over the Christmas holidays this past year. All I can say is hang in there. Yes you will have up and down periods. I am like you right now....I was doing well with my breakup until last week and then I seemed to go into a real depression over it. This week is a bit better but I just miss him so much. I keep thinking about the good times like you do, too and all of the things we used to do together. But the reality is that he did not feel the same about our time together or me as I felt about him. He was the one to break it up and not work on our problems. He does not want to be with me. That cold hard fact helps me face up to reality.

My situation may be a little different than yours as I am still seeing my ex as friends...something that he really wants. But, I just don't think it is working for me as I am not really "getting over" him like I should. And I feel resentful that he is probably just stringing me along to have there in case he gets lonely or to keep me there so I do not meet anyone else. Is your situation anything like that Jay? Are you still seeing your ex at all? I have done a lot of reading on breakups and everyone seems to say that NO CONTACT seems to be the best way to move on with your life. Makes sense to me.

Other than that take each day as it comes, spend time with friends, go out and have fun, talk about how you feel with someone you trust. Allow yourself to feel bad about the breakup. That is normal. You said that you were okay about the breakup at first...maybe this is your depression stage happening three month later. Anyhow...hang in there Jay....it will get better!!!