It's not precisely the same, but when I was in group T and in individual T with a different therapist, I felt that the group T was basically an idiot and was mishandling the group and I wasn't getting anything out of it. I talked to the group T about it individually and she said that I was making progress and that whatever issues I was having with her were of my doing.

My individual T helped me sort through these things, and I ended up dropping the group, which was a really good thing for me. I found another group (survivor led) that was incredibly supportive for me, and continued in individual T.

Specifically, during the "consult" part (over a few sessions), my T helped me figure things out in pretty much the same way that my current T does when I'm pondering the classic (for me) question, "is it me or is it (them)?" She asked me to describe what I perceived as my lack of progress, asked if there were any other way(s) to look at it and evaluate their veracity, encouraged me to hold these different ideas simultaneously in my head and check out which just seemed to fit. She asked what specific issues were troubling me about the group T, had me think about whether I'd faced these issues with other T's or other people before. She asked me if some of the things I had previously described to her as happening with other people felt similarly to the group T or group experience. Same with the issues I was having with the group process. She helped me problem solve around things I could try in group to see if that would help me, and I went back for several sessions to try these things. She helped me eventually arrive at an understanding about why the group wasn't working for me-- which I think was the question I needed to answer before I could decide to stick with it or not. And the answer was a rather complicated collection of things about me, things about the group process, and things about the group T that were keeping me from benefiting from it.

I know you mentioned that your T feels that you have made some progress, but have you tried to have a really in depth conversation with her about this issue, including asking her what she might think about your seeing another T for consultation? It might be really helpful and (if you gave her permission, of course), it also might help you for her to speak with the consultation T-- although maybe now this is sounding more like couples counseling than a consultation. Although I've known people who have done this when in conflict with their T's.

Anne