Peaches and all those who have participated in this discussion:

I just wanted to say how much this thread moved me. I view my T as very cold and clinical most of the time. I suspect there is warmth and caring there but I just see it so rarely and when I do it is just so 'barely there' and I later wonder if I actually saw it at all because his coldness negates it. I have printed off all the posts that moved me to tears in the hopes of expressing the feelings I have which I have been afraid to express. I realize that I am absolutely terrified of getting close to him again because I simply can't tolerate the cold clinical response. Not even a 'helping me through the feelings until they are resolved' response. I really do not see the point at all if he simply considers the matter dealt with after a ten minute discussion. That has simply caused me to try to view him in the same manner as he treats me. Like a patient in a dentist's office. I don't know, maybe we just can't communicate anymore because I'm so upset by his distance. It didn't always feel like this. Maybe printing this stuff off will cut through the crusty exterior that seems to have taken over. If this does not have ANY impact on him whatsoever, I think I'll be seriously questioning his competency.

PS: do not worry about this thread continuing. There is a good reason why it is. And...I may have ever seen it had it got buried.