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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
Lexi, I was a little confused by your reply. I'm tired and not feeling well, so I know it just might be me.  Are you a therapist? And started a relationship with a client? What was the time lag between the two? I am sorry it didn't work out for you guys.
In reference to your questions to me: "LETS JUST SAY, if he DID say he loved you, and everything about you, and wanted to be with you and see you every day, and etc.. speaking hypothoticaly. How would that change your relationship that you have with him now? How would his relationship change from the one that he has with you now? Would you both be comfortable with that kind of change?"
I am not looking for that kind of change. I am half in love with my T SOME of the time, but I need him as my therapist right now. I lost my dad; my father in law is dying and I am really close to him; my sister and her husband are just cruel and bizarre; I'm really struggling in my marriage. I need a therapist, not a boyfriend.
That said, I don't think there is anything unhealthy about how I feel about him, or wanting him to love me. He's an amazing person. He listens to me with respect, he validates my feelings, he accepts me. I love him and I think it would almost more weird if I didn't. I don't expect this feeling to GO anywhere on either of our parts. I know he would never take advantage of how vulnerable I am right now, and I would never do anything to endanger his marriage or career.
I don't know if any of this makes sense. I can't be the only person who loves their T and fantasizes sometimes, but doesn't really want anything to HAPPEN, right? And he cannot be the only T in the world who can like and maybe love a client without turning it into something creepy and weird, right? |
nope, not a therapist. But that is a goal in mind for when I can get into college. And also I just seem to take on that kind of role with people. But the relationship I used to explain why it might not be such a good idea. as during this time I found out that I couldn't be both with him and he was wanting to marry a therapist pretty much.. ...... I also had a mentor job, which OFTEN the evening staff within the hospital would put me in the role as a therapist. ... and then some of that just come naturally. I hate to see others hurt, and I want to know, and i want to help..
Ah
I get it now. I'm sorry, I thought something else lol
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And I believe you are right, that is natural, and it is healthy for you.
And as for the fantasizing, no you aren't alone in that, (the proof is in theres a whole board on here just for that), and yes you are right again, He isn't the only T.
I'm sorry for the novel i wrote earlier. my adhd med kicked in at the beginning of it. lol and I'm guessing just because I have this issue a lot, that the confusion had nothing to do on your side of it. I often have problems with writing and typing and even leaving out words and other things.