((((Claritytoo))))

Thank you for posting. It took a long time for some of those inside to talk, write, reach out, or even be known they were there. Even to myself. Many times just like for us it takes them time to trust, to check things out and know it is safe, to get to a place where they want to or can talk, and maybe they will not. It does not mean anything is wrong.

As you walk through this healing and facing things, when you are ready and your mind is ready if they are going to talk they will. Often times those within myself would speak but I had no idea they were even there at first or that they had written or anything. People would tell me that I did something or said something, or knew me that I had not seen or known before.

For us, I have always been afraid of anger and it was not allowed, and the ones inside that carried the anger hid for a long time until it was safe for that part of myself to step up. It has always been there and probably even stepped up at times I did not even know, but now that part has talked and written but it took them a long time to be able to do that. And still they do not always say or write anything.

Knowing that part of you is there is a start and is there a chance that he speaks when you step back and are unaware? If that part takes over is there a chance that they have spoken and does so when it is needed as that was what they were for?

I know that when I lose time I do not know what is done, said, or written. There was a time I had no idea and did not find out for a couple years that one was writing and talking because I left. Fear a lot of times can stop one from talking, writing, or even being known.

I do not think it means anything is wrong if they do not talk neccessarily. Often times trying to figure it all out before it is time creates more stress and lost feelings. I do validate how you feel because I too have had many questions and no understanding. But I have found that when it is time and I am ready answers do come.

Allow yourself that time and trust yourself. I know that I have learned to trust my system and to listen to them. There have been a million questions and what I have found out is that those questions have answers that come and begin to make sense when my mind and self are ready to know and hear them.

Keep posting and know that you are not alone. We do care and are here for you. Hugs and loving thoughts.

dps