I see from my records that it was in March 2010.

It was quite strange. I don't have any clear recollection of what happened. The big thing for me was that T cared enough to step out of T mode and explore the possibility that she might be part of the problem.

What I do remember, was that I spelled out my complaints against T to this super-T, and they both listened and didn't interrupt. Super-T then said some stuff to me that I didn't understand, like, "Only when the horse is broken can it be truly free," and "Beauty is transformative but it can't be owned."

I told him I was still looking for someone to be my mother. He said that was a good sign. "When you give up on that, that's when psychosis happens."

T said I was being too hard on her, "abusive" in fact. That was her only complaint. Super-T asked me if it was true that I was abusive. I said it was. "Don't," he said.

In retrospect, I think the man was a complete fraud! And yet, my therapeutic relationship was saved. And he did listen. Maybe that was all that mattered.

SPECULATION:

If a couple goes to counselling with open minds and willing hearts, their marriage is already saved.