Rapunzel,
I'm sorry about your struggle. Therapy is so hard, and it sounds particularly upsetting right now. And your T certainly does sound frustrated and maybe is feeling helpless right now. That said, I'm not sure I agree with the things she says in her email. I don't know what your therapy relationship is like or what she's like. I can only view this through my own experience and education. But I think she's crossed a boundary here by telling you so much of how this is affecting her. She sounds a bit burned out, and if she is, I seriously doubt it's all from you. I guess it makes me a bit mad that she seems to be placing the responsibility for her feelings on you.

I hope you two can work through this and come to a place where you both share a common vision and hope for the outcome.

Therapy's hard. (I guess I believe that enough to need to repeat it.) And it's scary. It's scary to change. This I know. I'm going through my own conflicts and regression related to approaching termination of my own therapy. Who knew that getting better would feel so threatening? Sigh. But it is. Change and the unknown are a risk and are scary. I guess I'm saying it's okay to be afraid or unsure about trying something you might advise someone else to do.

I've got a couple of other thoughts, but I don't want to write a novel here, and it may be me going into problem-solving mode when that's not what you are looking for. So feel free to PM me if you want to talk a bit about this.

Take care,

gg