I think the t asks misc questions in order to elicit something, is the term my T used. I have described how on PC all of a sudden someone will open up in our "group therapy" sessions, and T says that is a skill they try to teach young analysts. He's like, they should come here for training, we sound like we're pretty good at it! It's a team effort.

So, stopdog, you know I looooove my T, he's as cute as two beans! But you have never expressed any FEEEEELINGS towards any T. Given what Chopin recently said (in thread "Answer") about the effectiveness of treating therapy like a business r/s, what if you were to treat therapy as a different type of human r/s? My T and I pretty much "play house" (not "House"!), because my own house was cold and I was alone. The therapy room is warm and cozy and someone is there for me who loves me and we can play dolls and share feelings and if I feel bad he helps me, and if I feel good, that's okay too,
although I don't think we've gotten all the way THERE yet, it's still kinda scary. My T says it is the r/s that heals.

The room is whatever YOU need to make of it. Again, as was said to Chopin, why are you giving T all your power? I was going to suggest you find
ANOTHER T who is the sort of person you just LIKE - the person you would sit next to on a crowded bus and feel safest with, SOME sort of bizarre criteria! OR you need someone very NOT touchy-feely, someone very by-the-book, someone very analytical - I know people in my town who are like that, and they probably know others who are like them across the country, it HAS to be a club of some kind! Seriously, I met two here and it turned out one trained the other, I just thought it was the other way round. PM me with your city/state and i'll see if I can get a ref for your consult at least, if you like. We SO want this to work for our sister.