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Originally Posted by Perna
You are still you but who can see you? Get the hobbies back, pick something(s) to be interested in out there where there are other people doing the same thing, you can't find Mr. Right one person at a time? You have to look through crowds and be attractive in what you are doing (not necessarily how you look, yes, the initial impression can help but it's just the initial impression -- look at Susan Boyle with her passion for singing).
I was 39 when I married, 34 when I met Mr. Right; I know/knew very well how you feel  The couch corner cannot help you? Figure out what projects to start, take a class at a local college or rec center, the Winter semester is getting ready to start; join an interest group, a reading group, a support group, a woman's group, a new job with new people (that's how I met my husband). |
I understand everyone is just trying to help but...I do or have done all of that! I go to school part time, and have for several years. I work in a female dominated field (in healthcare, and am going to school to be an RN). I'm not interested in dating at work. I live in a conservative area where people marry early so, when I have gotten involved with things, my cohorts were either other (married) women, or older (married) men. For some reason, in my area, people aren't terribly open to new friendships ESPECIALLY if you're a single woman. Idk why, that's just how it is.
I know I sound like I'm whining and wallowing. Really, I don't usually. I always feel that the same things are true, and that the same factors are in play but usually I can just carry on. I'm just having a rough time, especially with the holidays, especially without family.