Costello,
You are going through so much in your own life/son I hope that you can find the peace of mind you need to endure your own challanges. I would sugest contacting a social worker and get him on some kind of disability with ss. before he becomes an adult. Or you can contact NAMI national association for mental illness. Your son is going to have to learn to live in this world with his disability and these org. can help with that. And these org. can help you also. My mother suffered from schizophrenia and I did my best to care for her, even though I was a teenager with a child of my own to care for, I had to put her in the hospital. I needed to do it for her but also myself. It hurts and is not an easy fix but it's a start.