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Why would you think this?
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Because it's the way therapy works in my understanding.
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Is it the way they all do it?
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Yes I think so. Isn't that the impression you have from what you learn on PC and what you read?
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If it is true, why does the therapist not tell me this and explain the general plan? I have asked. (I do not expect you to answer why the therapist does or does not do something - this is more rhetorical). Why does the therapist not tell me why she asks the same questions over and over despite my having given a precise and concise response the first time? I ask this directly, and she responds there is no reason.
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I'm going to say some things about your questions even though you said you're being rhetorical. If you gave concise answers, it may not have been very helpful for your t to understand you. More open, communicative answers (longer answers) might be more useful to you and your therapist.
Your t might not answer your questions about why if you ask them too often and your t doesn't think logically understanding the answers to endless questions will help you. Your t might think these questions are leading down the rabbit hole a previous poster mentioned.
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Hopefully a consult will be able to help clarify this. This is a bad week to get other therapists to call back but I did cancel the next appointment so perhaps I can set something up during the time I do not see the current one.
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Maybe it will help you feel more comfortable. I don't think it's likely to help much, but I hope it does if you decide to spend the time on it.
I think that even though you're really intelligent, you tend to ignore emotions and feelings a lot more than most people ignore them. Maybe you are afraid of letting yourself pay attention to them if bad things that happened to you in the past hurt your feelings a lot. You might have forgotten about the things that happened and just unconsciously kept the habit of being afraid.
Anyway, since you don't seem to have thought about feelings as much as other people, you might be slower to understand feelings and to make inferences about feelings than other people who are as intelligent as you. So I wonder if it helps you when people explain feelings and emotions in simpler terms. People might assume you understand the feelings and emotions better than you do since most people as intelligent as you are understand them better.
I don't think the feelings and emotions you need to understand to "understand" therapy can be entirely "explained." That leads down a rabbit hole of endless questions. But maybe having a little more explanation will help you feel comfortable, even though it can't ultimately answer your questions. Maybe a consult t will give you a little more explanation, I don't know.