Granite - I am so so sorry. That must feel so horrible. I don't know your T and I don't know really your relationship with her. Is it possible that she's doing everything she can to help you TALK to her? Is it possible that she cares deeply and is encouraged that you went so far as to write her and now she hopes you'll take the next step?

idk - I would also feel deeply hurt also if my T returned a letter of mine unopened. There must be an explanation. She must believe that this is a way to help you. She may be completely wrong in her approach and it may be an approach that isn't working for you. But, still, I don't believe she hates you and I think she's doing of what she is capable to help you.

I so feel for your suffering.