Oh, granite. My heart aches for you, so badly. I think your T should have read the letter and her sending it back was wrong, like WePow said, but I also agree with hankster that she made that rule and she's keeping it.

But she doesn't hate you. That part is simply not true at all. She's treating you the way she thinks is going to help you. I can see my former T being like that when I didn't want to leave her house and she just kept saying "this isn't healthy" until I left. No words of consolation or question as to why I couldn't leave. I was devastated of course.

My current T would never do that. But my former T thought she was acting in my best interests.

Maybe it is time to try the T you were thinking of a while back. A different T could help you to talk and it wouldn't be like starting over. I know you don't want to hear that now, though.

You are so compassionate and nice. No one hates you.