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Originally Posted by elliemay
With all of his health problems, a psychiatrist would be the appropriate choice IMO. There are psychiatrists that do therapy, but they are a rare breed indeed. Therefore, you may end up getting both a psychiatrist and a psychologist to help.
If he files bankruptcy, that will provide him with a certain measure of protection from most of his debts - especially the taxes. It may even help stop the foreclosure depending on what state you live in .
Just remember, you can lead a horse to water but.....
What your father choses to do is ultimately up to him. You can not fix all of this for him.
Be sure that you take care of yourself first. It is only then that you can be of service to your father.
Peace
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Thank you for your thoughts ellie. When it comes to the foreclosure he has been planning to do this all along.
He has the money to pay his mortgage but hasn't been doing so since June. Apparently he's 'planning for his future'. He figures if he ever ends up in a nursing home they would take his house as payment so he's giving up his house. I grew up in the house he lives in and it looks like an abandoned house on the inside. My kids have never stepped foot in the home nor will they on my accord.
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Originally Posted by Perna
His depression is probably due to his heart problems (happens all the time); talk to his primary care physician! He doesn't need mental help right now, he needs physical/medical care and someone to get a power of attorney and work on his financial/real world stuff.
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Perna TY for the thoughts about depression. Unfortunately he's been depressed for as long as I've known him and before he went on heart meds. He was using gambling and other means to medicate himself etc...
Oh and he doesn't have a primary care physician. He moved his practice out of state and my dad hasn't bothered to get another dr! (my dad is 65 btw so he's 'with it').
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Originally Posted by stopdog
A power of attorney might be one way to help with the financial stuff, but consult an attorney to make sure your father and the potential poa understand the benefits and potential pitfalls. The life of a fiduciary is not a happy or easy one.
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I just had a conversation with my brother about making sure he does his homework before going for power of attorney... I'm guessing that what ever financial problems my dad has now becomes ours. My dad could care less and I'm feeling like I could care less as well. I feel like I need to protect myself from his 'garbage' while at the same time trying to help him at an arms length. I don't want to get
My blood is boiling!!!