Maybe you can try marriage counseling and, if you decide you would like to stay, individual counseling to help try and change some of the personal, negative, ways you view him based on his previous bad behavior?

Or, I would talk with a women's shelter (assuming you would not wish to go to a lawyer and have to figure out where to get the money from so he did not know) and see what ideas they have about places to live, getting your own paycheck back, keeping the children; what your true options are -- in any event, he would have to pay child support for the children if they are his, whether or not you are married.

You are the only one in this relationship who can know how you feel about him and whether he treats you well, etc. Just that he buys you material things you ask for and that others can see is neither here nor there; it does not sound like he loves you; he would want to protect you financially and putting the house in his name only and making you a non financial participant in your family's life is not the acts of a loving man but a controlling one (as you know him to be). If your mother/relatives butt in with their opinions, you could point this out; he did not buy you a house, he bought himself one in which to stash you.