Rap

Let me first say that you are a wonderful person and do help yourself to the best of your ability, otherwise you wouldn't seek out therapy or talk to us here. I usually don't come to this forum but saw the subject.

I am APPAULED at what your T wrote!!!!! How dare she accuse you of not helping yourself and dragging your kids down with you!!! TOTALLY INAPPROPRIATE. KD is right, it is about HER and not about YOU! My T has heard the same stuff as I'm sure many others have. Sometimes we get stuck in therapy and it's their job (we pay them as a consumer) to help us get unstuck.

She made you feel like a bad person?! What kind of a therapist is that? I'm sorry, I am proboblly speaking out of line, but she's got me all upset for treating you like that! How dare she!

I think you are right, time to find a therapist who is about you, not her. Sounds like she is inadequate as to what to do next and is taking it out on you. Wrong!

I realize that we all develop relationships with out T's, that's just part of the trust issue and I'm sorry if I am hurting you by being negative about your T. Really I am. Feeling disliked by someone we have a relationship with is very upsetting. But she's got me upset for treating you like that.

Maybe it's time to find someone else. It doesn't matter how many therapists you've had in the past. Sometimes it takes a couple for find the right fit. Ask yourself some questions when querring for a new one: does this one have a specialty in my particular mental health issue? what kind of therapist are they i.e. social worker, psychologist, therapist - try a male therapist instead.

I'm so sorry she did this to you. I've read some of your posts to others and some of your own. You are a terrific person and it is easier to help others than to help ourselves. For a year, my T has been trying to get me to see that what I do is important and helpful and that I have the knowledge - it just doesn't "click" when it comes to myself. There's a barrier that we're working through. But, he sees that and doesn't accuse me of not wanting to get better. We just try a different way. I still can't get it through my head that I am allowed to make choices for myself. Oh, well, we're working on it. He's a trauma specialist because that's what I found out I needed.

Does your T work with CBT? This "shock" thing that she did wasn't very sensitive and only seemed to be hurtful.

I hope and pray that you don't take what she said to heart, I know it's hard not to, Lord knows I did. I felt like I was being attacked as well!

Okay, I'm done because I'm just repeating myself. Please please please don't fall into her issues by beating up on yourself. Send her a reply e-mail and tell her how hurtful she was and how it made you feel. See what her response will be. That might be a good place to start. It may show you that she was having a bad day (in which case, she never should have taken it out on you - as a professional she should have had more control). If you have a bad day, do you take it out on us? If someone here posted a reply to someone, would you have deleted it? I think you would have because it was inappropriate, as was she.

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Rap.
Songbird