I don't do a lot of posting here on the forum but I LOVE reading everyones thoughts and "takes" on the process of psychotherapy. I do have to say, however, stopdog, that your persistance in pursuing therapy in light of your very clear distain of feelings/emotions confuses me.

Why would you pursue an endeavor that encourages and even supports one's expression of their inner most feelings? A process that relies upon one's willingness to explore and analyze their thoughts and feelings about relationships?

I have to wonder why you haven't thought about or pursued a therapist who adheres to a STRICT behavioralist route of treatment. You speak of wanting to address a particular psychological "issue" in your treatment. Perhaps you would be happier and more content with a psychological process that addressed it in a more stepwise fashion. Many behavioralist will clinically address/assess the situation and then come up with a very detailed plan for addressing the issue. He/she will go over this plan with you, help you understand the plan and then proceed with the plan with your participation. YOu seem to be stuck in seeking out psychodynamic/psychotherapy which is much more open and "unplanned" in nature.

You seem to have access to a University setting. Talk to them and ask for a referral to a behavioralist. I sure hope you stop torturing yourself with a process that seems totally contrary to your wants and needs!