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Originally Posted by pachyderm
I found my attempts to answer questions that were not questions to be extremely confusing, since I never got the answers right, or never understood why my answers did no good -- until I figured out that they were, in fact, not questions at all, but expressions of agita on the part of those posing the "questions"
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In law there is a saying that goes, he who frames the question wins the argument.
Questions can definitely be used to make statements that are hurtful under the ruse of attempting to create more understanding. When I used to teach college students and the university would bring in controversial speakers, there would always be at least one person in the audience who would stand up and ask a thinly veiled question that asked, "isn't everything you've said a bunch of b.s.?"
I'm sorry that you've had this experience in therapy. I've had enough ruses used against me in the past to ever want to go through them again.
Anne