Hello Purple heart, "am I asking too much". yeah, probably. I know families with
one rotten daughter who is treated like the favorite sweetheart, and the good,
nice daughter is left off like some 'red headed step child".
You just can not force a person or group to like you, no matter how much your
natural wonder and your long personal self work has 'earned' it.

True, respect should be earned, but how seldom it is that we have been blessed with
people who can have the awareness of consciousness to give acceptance,
approval, attention, and affection where it really is most needed and richly
deserved.
You have to treat every person like an animal, some are Koala bears, just
looking cute and harmless willing to give an asked for hug, then, well then,
there is your family, like perhaps a pack of ravens, cawing and pecking.
Take what each person has to give and if they have some criticism of your
personality, take it as "pure information". Judge it on its reality and potential to
be of use to you for your "EVOLUTION" to a better you.
All the rest, leave off. If some decent friend or [unofficially] adoptive relative
should have criticism, then that you can take to heart, because you know
they have love for you.
These folks obviously missed the line when they were handing out gratitude and humanity.

. A family is made not by what flows through the veins, but through
the heart.

SW