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Irreplaceable · Dec 30, 2011, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Lyzzyy

Thank you both for responding!

Irreplaceable, I know what you mean, people tell me that all the time and I see it now but we were friends for a year up until my ex started dating and then everything changed. I guess it becomes more difficult once a third party is involved but it is just hard to let go of someone you spend so many years with, specially when they are willing to be friends. But yeah, I need to move on.

Gimmeice, yeah right now we are taking some time apart until I fell ok with my ex dating someone else... Hopefully it will work out in the future although right now it hurts a lot.

Happy new years to both of you, hopefully the upcoming year will be better

It's good that you two were friends first...I can't say that I've ever been friends with someone before starting a relationship...We meet, we date, then relationship...With the guy that I am with now, we decided we wanted to take it slow and get to know each other before making it official....So, I guess in away, I wouldn't know how to handle cutting off all ties with someone you would consider a friend...Plus, the only other relationship I had ended bad..I guess the best answer is to put YOU first and everything else will fall into place...If you are willing to be friends with him, you will have to accept that you won't be friends the way that you were before because things have now changed...I think that this kinda thing COULD turn messy...Because as you said, there are 3 people involved...Alot of women wouldn't be too cool with their bf being friends with an ex...Then again, some don't care...But somewhere down the line, if they became more serious, then I think it would become more of an issue depending on how much time you spend with him and what you two do together...And that is where the rift between the 3 come into play...What you said in your post describes the same story that alot of people tell when they are friends with an ex..It just seems like in the end, it never really works...Or the dynamics of the relationships greatly changes...Every situation isn't the same though...I bet once you start dating someone, this issue probably won't be an issue like it is now...Because you will have someone else to do all the things that you did with your ex when you were friends...People come into your life for a reason...Friends sometimes come and go...It's a part of the game...Best of luck to you...