I guess it is a gift but I have done a lot of it in my dreams. I am not sure how it works but I know it only works in the dreams that repeat and repeat. T says that this is part of how I work things out. I dream about the awful stuff, I have flashbacks I try different solutions in the dreams and seem to come to some kind of resolution. It doesn't always work -- I get stuck more often than not and have to work in therapy to find a way out. But in the end I seem to cap each gain with a dream in which I reclaim, heal or console the toddler, child and teen. It seems like a lot of hard work to make very slow progress but so far it seems to work for me.

~D~