Hi,

I'm so sorry that you had this experience - it sounds so painful. Did you try talking with your counselor about your feelings, and ask what might be going wrong in the relationship? I hope you tried to talk with them before you left. I agree with you that it is really important to have a good connection with the counselor. My current counselor said they've done research in recent years - and the #1 predictor of healing in therapy isn't any one kind of therapy, or any of the other variables they studied. It's the personal relationship the client is able to form with the counselor, and how well they connect. It's sure been true in the relationship I have with my counselor now, and when it's not a good connection, like you describe, it makes it hard for good work to happen. I hope you can try again and find a counselor with whom you can have a better working relationship.

Thinking of you -

Take care,
ErinBear