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Originally Posted by CantExplain
You are very goal directed. I was too.
I often complained to T that there was no plan. She insisted that there is a plan. "Well it doesn't look like a plan to me!" And it still doesn't.
From your perspective and mine, therapy is essentially planless. You wander around your psyche hoping to find something significant and helpful. It's a lolly scramble and a goldrush. To the organised mind, it is a complete shambles. Even those who practice it don't really understand why it works.
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I can relate to this. I am a super 'organizer'. I want lists, plans, outlines, step by step instructions, target dates and on and on. I would pound my head in frustration trying to do the 'work'. I didn't know though what the work was.
I've found that analysis doesn't achieve much in the realm of emotions. I mean it can offer some things but it cannot do the final work. I would get so frustrated when T would say, 'trust the process'. I kept asking, 'what is the process'. I never could really understand it and I still do not understand it.
BUT, I've made progress and IT MAKES NO SENSE. I don't understand how or why. Like T has said, 'it's not linear and sometimes there are changes we cannot understand." It's a somewhat mystical organic process.
But the brain scientist explain it well. I cannot explain it. Something about changing the synaptic connection between neurons in the brain. I've read a lot about it - still don't understand. But somehow or another 'talk therapy' is working for me.