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Originally Posted by stopdog
Thank you for the sharing. I do appreciate it.
The funny thing is
I am actually not super organized, I am barely organized at all. I never make lists, or outlines or plans etc. I can be goal oriented, but not always. I have some perfectionistic tendencies. I do very much value thinking over feeling. I certainly am goal oriented here. I do not want to sit and chat with some stranger who I am paying a fortune to without some discernable reason. And I hate that no one can explain something they are telling me to trust. I think there is really no such thing as "the process" - it is just a phrase they teach them to use because they do not know what they are really doing.
I am very glad it is working for you.
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I go into each session with a list of stuff I want to discuss. I have a notebook specially for this purpose. During the week I will make notes of things that happen that affect me emotionally. And just before session I will prioritize the list of that which seems most important at the time.
I usually do not have time to cover the whole list. I share my thoughts, my ideas, my feelings about each item. T helps direct my thinking by her questioning. She can evoke feelings in me by her gentle methods and helps me clarify some points.
Although there have been times I've gone into session 'blank', I don't prefer to do that. Therapy is way too expensive for me to just 'hang out' in her office. Those non-directed by me sessions have had their value occasionally but I don't think they're the most productive.
The reason I like control over the topics is that only I know what's going on with me.