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Originally Posted by skysblue
I go into each session with a list of stuff I want to discuss. I have a notebook specially for this purpose. During the week I will make notes of things that happen that affect me emotionally. And just before session I will prioritize the list of that which seems most important at the time.
I usually do not have time to cover the whole list. I share my thoughts, my ideas, my feelings about each item. T helps direct my thinking by her questioning. She can evoke feelings in me by her gentle methods and helps me clarify some points.
Although there have been times I've gone into session 'blank', I don't prefer to do that. Therapy is way too expensive for me to just 'hang out' in her office. Those non-directed by me sessions have had their value occasionally but I don't think they're the most productive.
The reason I like control over the topics is that only I know what's going on with me.
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The problem for me is I do not know what to discuss that will help with the issue I have - that is what I thought her questions were supposed to do - direct me to the area of talking about whatever it is I need to talk about to fix it. My week is usually pretty much the same with nothing of note and I rarely have emotional changes over the week and my real life is not the problem. I have tried a list a couple of times but it was more frustrating to have a list that did not get resolved and I was still not certain anything was actually going to help with the reason I went there. Plus I have read in several of the books that clients are always wrong about what they think they should be talking about and talk about the wrong things. I suppose I can try repeating the reason I decided to try - but that only takes about three sentences and I have repeated it about a thousand times. Oh well, maybe the consult t can help me.