Hey prometheus. I think I was having this issue this week, but my family is like so freakin passive aggressive they can't even hurt you properly. my brother calls me xmas morning 9 AM!!! to invite me to dinner that day. He called me wednesday to tell me about a relative's funeral wed/thursday (the guy died last saturday).

it finally made me feel better and got me out of my feeling crummy loop when I was able to rationalize that the reason for the last minute notifies was so that I don't bring a friend. My T was like, whaaa? I'm like, you know, for them, it makes sense. We were trying to figure out why on earth my brother would keep calling me like this - it's certainly not making ME feel any better.

I just thank him for calling. I have asked to have a r/s w/my nephew that doesn't involve having to see my mother. My brother ignores that and says there is only one way for "the family" to get together, and when I am "ready to come back, I may", which he reiterated Sunday. His stupid phone calls trigger me, and I cannot do all the good things for myself that I need to do. But at least I am not doing as many bad things, I guess.

Tomorrow morning, no defense mechanisms. I take my power back. You read it here first. Maybe if I keep saying it, I will eventually make it happen?