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Originally Posted by puzzclar You don't want to hurt her, so help. Maybe this idea could help. It's worth a try. If you want to stop cutting as well, then stop together. that is assuming that she wants to stop as well. Say in one week if you haven't cut then you do something fun. It's an idea. You know what she is going through, you may not know how to help, but you can sure try. I hope it works, but there's no fix all for everyone. You just have to keep trying, and never give up.

I tried so many things! I tried short promises - she says:

"I can’t promise I won’t cut".

I say "talking to someone can help". She says:

"I don’t want to be stopped".

I asked her "You wanna try the butterfly project?". Aaaaaaand???? huh? I know you want to know her answer, so here it goes:

"It wont work - I dont care if the butterfly dies".

"Okay, so you could write in the place where you want to cut reasons why you shouldnt do it, like - I wont cut cuz it would hurt my mom or I wont cut because I want quit SI and it would be a step back". That could be a reminder. She said:

"I still dont care. Its just ink".

I suggested "WE could throw away our tools to support SIAD". What did she say?

"I don’t want to throw them away".

And I tried again: "Well, you can buy more blades later. It's just to see if we can live without our blades, even if it's just for 15 minutes. It’s just a 1st step". And what did she say?!!!

"I want to keep my tools forever".

YAY! You were expecting this. weren't you?! You see? How can I help if she just isn't trying???

She said she is an adult and able to make her own decisions so she won’t stop because I’m asking her to. I wonder: what the hell am I doing here then? I’m a friend and friends help. Or isn’t it like this anymore???
She says:

"I’m not ready to stop".

Seriously? She wants to cut? Then cut. If she doesnt want my help, I cant be around... it just hurt me.