Sounds to me like bullying rather than therapy.

I have said many of the same things you are saying here. T told me that it is OK to need. That those who are worried that they are not trying are usually the ones who are trying hardest. I've told Ts that I don't believe the good things they and others say about me. They have helped me to see the comments as well meant and challenged me to find evidence that they are not true and evidence that they are true. I know how hard it is. imo, for your T to use the words you have reported here is harmful rather than helpful. I do see what atg is saying, but I think the words you report go further than a T who is challenging you to success. those words are negative and destructive. I hope you will feel able to look for a second opinion at least.
Be safe