Thanks Perna! And yes I'm quite familiar with the Harry Potter spells. I do assert myself, but the last time was just terrifying. They each had their own idea of how we should be feeling and reacting to a situation. Eg, 1 wanted to cut, 1 wanted to die, the other wanted to run. Add a loud authorotative condescending voice repeatin how worthless you are, and it's a real scary bowl of fruitloops.I guess the reason I raised this topic so long after my last episode is, I fear that I encouraged them by always referring to myself as 'we'. I think I caused it somehow. They only emerge during a really bad episode, so they've been very quiet for a long time now. (thank God) once again thanks for taking the time to respond, it's appreciated.XOXO