My mother in law saw him and kept telling me how amazing he was and that I didn't have to feel like crud for the rest of my life.

Yes, I had seen two other therapists before.

I saw the one about three months before I knew beyond any doubt she was a horrible person for me. The other was a therapist I had seen before, and he probably would have been fine for me again, but I had insurance issues with the group he was with. Now, in retrospect, I can tell that my current therapist is much better suited for me. The problem with my current therapist is I like him tooooo much (in my own opinion).

I think being non-judgmental and accepting is really important. The woman T I saw was really a hag to me about something I said to my husband. Just kept asking me if I thought about how it would make him feel before I said it.