I am with the first T I tried and I found him from a list from my then insurance company. I just searched by location, picked a random few names of the closest ones and he was the only one I actually had the guts to leave a voicemail with, lol. I knew when I spoke to him on the phone the first time that I would be comfortable with him, so even after just the first face-to-face session I knew he was a good match.

I really had no idea what were good qualities, but I've discovered that I want someone who is empathic, accepting, won't criticize me because I already come from an environment where I am often harshly criticized so I don't need that anywhere else, but still has good professional boundaries. I wanted to be cared about but also feel safe, and I do.