1. I found him on the psychology today website. I read profiles of T's and checked to see who took my insurance. I liked what he wrote.

2. He's my first and only T!

3. I chose him after a few phone calls where he helped me through the process of choosing a therapist (he was never pushy about who I chose. he just listened and helped)...so I must have sensed when I picked him that he would be a good match. Although I considered quitting therapy a lot, it was to get away from therapy, not to find another T...so I guess I felt like he was a good match from the beginning.

4. My T is almost always 100% present with me. He gives me a lot of space to explore what I need to explore and to tell what I need to tell. He's empathetic and caring. He always, always points out to me that it is *my* internal wisdom that is leading to my healing - not his - and that's empowering. He has really good boundaries, and I know I'm safe. I didn't know those were things I needed when I started therapy, but I know now that those things are exactly what I need.