Best Wishes and hang in there, PurpleFlyingMonkeys. For me Dissociating during intimacy was normal given what I had been through. Becoming aware of it and dealing with the awareness was the abnormal part. Slowly I became accustomed to what it felt like, who it was, and what happened when. Dialogue opened up between the people involved in that particular activity.

Once the dialogue started between the people inside things got lots easier and we could coordinate and relax. The time for intimacy became special and safe. This did not happen over night but it did happen.

As primary person I oversee operations, but everybody has a say that is left. It has taken a long time to get here and lots of work with a therapist. Every minute has been worth it.

Happy New Years EVE!!!