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I think I have a lot of social anxiety, and I think it comes down to this: I'm afraid that if I express a desire to be part of a group, no one will want me to be in the group, and I'm afraid that if I act like I'm not interested in being part of the group, I won't be part of the group. So, no matter what I do, I can't be part of the group. I know that has to be some kind of disordered thinking, a cognitive distortion like black-and-white or all-or-nothing thinking. I also know there has to be a middle ground, but I don't know what it is yet. I'm embarrassed to still not know the answer at my age, but I'm determined to keep asking the question until I figure it out.
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You must go on, I can't go on, I'll go on.
- Samuel Beckett
It's never too late to start all over again
- Steppenwolf
Every person carries with him or herself patterns of thinking, feeling, and potential acting which were learned throughout their lifetime...As soon as certain patterns...have established themselves...he must unlearn these...and unlearning is more difficult than learning for the first time.
- Geert Hofstede
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