FWIW, I usually announce these feelings to T by saying, I'm feeling crotchy. He once replied, you're angry? I said no! He goes, you said you were feeling crotchety, that means angry. I go, I KNOW what crotchety means, I made up a word, I said I was feeling CROTCHY, YOU KNOW!!! And I think I pointed. But they aren't really hot and bothered, turned on feelings for me - I would only call them sexual because they are in that physical vicinity, if that makes sense. The brain is not really engaged, nor are are the earlobes...!