BlueInanna, I can relate to what you are dealing with. While your son is 16, yes he needs to have some say about how his meds make him feel, but he is not old enough to make his own decision about whether to take them or not.

My son also liked being manic - or so he thought. It had become such a huge part of his personality and his way of life. Giving up the manic side was very difficult for him at first. But over time he is discovering that he actually prefers being balanced emotionally. He is making better life decisions now and rarely deals with anxiety now. The Seroquel makes him drowsy as well, so he takes it at night.

I wish you the best. It isn't easy to raise children - much less a child with ADHD and Bipolar.