Thread: my relationship with t - ending: trigger for mention of SI
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Old Jan 01, 2012, 04:08 PM
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kiya wow big changes! i really like how you can see what you need to do in your changing world and are taking steps to work through the changes. that is so healthy

you explained yourself really well in your letter. i'm soooo glad it makes you feel better. you're standing up for yourself in an assertive manner more healthy things

you talked about what you did NOT want the last 5 sessions to be about. i'm wondering if it would be worthwhile to write a second letter detailing what you DO want them to be about.

anywho, soooo nice to see you again and way to go girl!!! let us know how it goes
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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Thanks for this!
Kiya