My T changed plans at the last minute this year. She rarely is away, so I'm really thankful for that. She works 4 days, leaving a long weekend for some travel. She's so reliable it isn't funny. Stays late if needed, once came in on her Friday off because I needed her.

Anyway, this year she said she was not taking any time off around the holidays. Okay, so on the way out the door both Thursdays, I said see you Monday and both times (she was embarrassed and apologetic each time) she said "Oh, wait! I'm glad you said that. I decided I might take another day after the weekend. Can you come in on Tuesday?" And I could, it was no problem, but holy cow I nearly left not knowing, and would have shown up and found a darkened and locked office.

I realized when this happened, especially the 2nd time (I can be generous and forgive once, but after that I usually suspect this is happening on purpose), that I am feeling secure with her. I hope it was the innocent occurrence that it seemed to be and not some kind of test, but either way, I responded with acceptance and without alarm (paranoia, assigning maliciousness, feeling unimportant, etc.) and that is a good thing for me.