I am trying to recover from self harm with no professional help because it is a waste of time. I have been but i am not going to my next appointment as it doesnt help and the guy i saw is a snob who blames everything on my parents and the world around me (okay so bullying does have something to do with it but its isnt the primary reason). He doesnt blame anything on my mental health and wellbeing.

How can i resist the urges?
How can i go about stopping self harming?