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Lexi232 · Jan 01, 2012, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by curlydee

i have no choice. how do i keep putting on the show - making it appear that i'm all right when i really am not? why do i even bother any more? i just can't take the pain!!! it's too much. it's overwhelming. it's getting to be too much. no one understands!

Dear, you DO have a choice.. and by making the choice that you dont have any, is a choice within itself... You can take an all or nothing approach, or find a middle ground to do what i'm about to suggest...
Stop putting on a show..
Stop giving people the illusion that you're okay when your really not..
Show them how you really are.. (but don't harm yourself in the process!) ..
They can't fully help you, if you are giving them a mask and illusions...
Show them, and make them understand... It's hard to understand someone who is distant, hiding, and puting up a mask and giving off illusions that they are alright. Its the natural instinct of most people to want to believe that your okay when you say you are.... those who care, will question it, but they prolly dont want to make you upset or mad with them so they dont push the issue, feeling that if you needed something that you would come to them and open up. prying into ones life is a very risky business, and so a lot steer away, and just make themselves readily avalible to the person if they should ever come out and say they aren't okay.. that things are horrible, and they can barely stand it any more. ...

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Originally Posted by curlydee

my psychiatrist says to give it another week or two for the medicine to work. what if i just can't wait that long? i know...i have to be patient... show this post to my pschyartist... tell someone i can trust... open up to my husband... go to the hospital... consider ect... call a friend... watch a movie... read my favorite book... go to sleep... do something i enjoy... call someone i can open up too... ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh! it just hurts so much! too much...

You know the answer to that question... You pretty much answered it right after you asked it..
I would suggest not being alone...
Have someone there with you, and perhaps have a "tutor" type of session where it's a study buddy and together work on coping skills and what best could work, and what you know that doesn't work...
Research the hospitals in your area (if you haven't already) that have mental hospitals within them... Find one that makes you feel at ease about it, (or as most ease as you can get with that..) And then go. ...
<.<;;; I think i should take my own advice...
lol.. do you ever find that when you're giving out advice that you sometimes find a solution to your own personal issues?

maybe give that a shot too... even if you aren't good at advice or dont feel adequet to do it, just type whatever come to mind... and if you mean it in the best intentions it will always be good advice...
Because then a person know that they aren't alone, and there are people out there who are trying to help them... and that those people can see a future for them. Which could be just what someone needs to keep going.