Deedina... sometimes...inadvertantly... a spouse or S/O can be the source of irritation. I know that can sound kind of like playing the "blame game". For example....my best friend has this penchant for saying that I am saying things I don't say because he needs a hearing aid and refuses to acknowledge this. This causes a lot "friction" between us and heck yeah...it does "irritate" me. But the best solution is to "walk away" until the issue is resolved. Unfortunately in my case, I am afraid that it may lead to a break-up in a friendship of almost 5 years. A stubborn person can be a source of irritation but there comes a point when one has to decide if the value of the relationship is worth the headache. In the case of spouses though...just add another "pearl" to your string as like an oyster builds pearls around the irritant within its shell...so must a spouse. Good luck !

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