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Originally Posted by Callmebj
Hello nevergoingtobealone, I have a bit of a problem with what seems to be a "hero" complex on your part. Utimately all of us are personal players in our own lives and we must individually want to change our behavior and our mistaken thought processes on our own. No other person can do this for them. You can't ride in on your white horse and slay the dragons.
That's not real life. You are not another person's savior and I find it grandeous thinking to believe that. Yes, you can be there for another person, but YOU CANNOT do this change for someone.
You are evidentally looking for women with problems, maybe subconsciously,that have disfunctions. Maybe a type of transference, but whatever it is, I cannot believe it is a healthy situation for you.
Whatever happened to you when you were younger, so nice it helped
you get better...but if you consider yourself a healer of other persons
wounds I think that is the wrong message to be atuned to.
When a person seeks counseling and they want to change, they will
work hard to improve themselves. The key is "do they want the change?"
Don't get yourself on an ego trip that you must save others....that's a job for a far grander, powerful God, not a mortal man.
Be Well, sorry to be so tough...but fella, think you've got it all wrong.
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Hi Callmebj,
I am truly sorry that you see this as an attempt at me placing myself on a podium. An ego trip is so far from the truth friend, that would be your own opinion on the matter, not a true fact indeed. It worries you that I seek to save people? Then in turn I am worried for you that would seek an offence at such an offer I will always extend. You need to understand that, yes, I have saved others, not just in a mental mindset scenario though, but in anything in life. I have saved others physically too, so you have mistaken me for something else, my concern is only about these people. I don't flaunt anything about what I do, that would be the ego trip you describe.
I don't actually take offence to your disgruntlement. But people can be saved, and if you prefer to sit back and let others who cannot help themselves - lose, then that is merely your own choice. Some people do want change, but cannot.
On the part of your assumption I am looking for 'women with problems' sounds to me like you have plucked a tips and tricks line from a self help book. I help anyone, and I have, children, men and women. Depression is only the first where I have been unable to turn the tide. People can ride in on their white horses and save people, I've seen it and my job even dictates as such. When others hit a wall of 'ultimate reality check' like you, I feel sorry for them, like they have given up. I will never give up. You can disagree with my standing, but you cannot break it with remarks I want any form of glory from it. I do not care for that, only for the people I help.
Finally you cannot bring a debate of God onto a subject based on man. You are talking, because you are a human, you have your current opinion because you are a human with free will, everything we do, is because we are human, I will aid and save people, because I am human. God in-fact, does not save people in relation to how you so accurately described: "Utimately all of us are personal players in our own lives and we must individually want to change our behavior and our mistaken thought processes on our own. No other person can do this for them." Even people who accept God into their lives, which in turn saves them sometimes, is still them, making a choice, OR being guided thus.
If you do not understand how I can do such things without any notion of selfish self fulfilment, then I see no need to talk with you.