Not to sound glib, but perhaps you are reading too much?

I understand the curiosity, but IMO all of these things are simply academic, artificially created concepts to describe human behaviour, and, well, sell books.

There are a lot of self-seekers out there, but I'm not sure the answers to ourselves or others can be found in books.

I think it is really important to come to know yourself, and not what others would have to say about you.

Don't get me wrong, I love Brene Brown, and find her research to be outstanding. Hers is the only book I have ever bought and read all the way through.