Hey ruby thanks for your response. I think that your exactly right I have been dooing alot of those things that you talked about. I have been buying myself new cloths, exercising and I am going to New York for a couple of days to visit a friend I have not seen in a long time. I do realize that I am way better off with out my ex, but sometimes I still miss her company alot. I do hope that things start working out for me a little better though it has been a tuff year so far with the break up, school, and alot of other things that have piled up in the last six months. I really do hope to find that special woman with in the next year, I do not really like being alone that much, but I also no that I can't just search for her, because things happen when you are least expecting them. Again thank you for your advice and I will continue to spoil myself it is alot of fun.