geez, there have been other threads on here about EMDR; I'm too tired and lazy to look for them now so I'll just tell you my feelings about it.

EMDR scares me but I think it works! My T believes very strongly in it and she does it with most, if not all, of her clients. I've had varying reactions including feeling exhausted afterwards, but it usually makes me feel calm too. We did it about my fear of fire and I've noticed that I can light matches without panicking like I used to.

I don't like it because I don't feel close to my T when we do it; I feel kind of in my own world and it's scary. Sometimes. Other times it's all right. For a month or more I haven't wanted to do EMDR but my T keeps writing down EMDR targets for me. I'm not sure why it's so scary. My T says there is no right or wrong; just go wherever my mind takes me. But I keep trying to do it "right" and it makes me uneasy.

So it's up to you. I'd try it a few more times before you give up on it. But I thought you were seeing another T for couples therapy. EMDR wouldn't work for that.

Also, EMDR does not have to be done just for major trauma. My T uses it with me anywhere I might be stuck, or about any feelings I have like "I feel different" for example.

So you decided to go back to your former T. I hope that it goes well for you.