Be yourself at all costs and in all the conflict that will happen, you will learn and grow to see that you're stuck in a mental prison of habitualized beliefs indoctrinated into you by society since you were a little kid.

Once you see that you're surrounded by the mental illness of confusion, you will also be able to see your true gifts, your true talents, that you're trained to be obedient but not to be creative. You will be able to see also your limits and that when you live expressing through your gifts and not try to become something that you're can never be, you will be able to stand up for you, enjoy your aloneness without being lonely, not be depressed and know that you're a miracle of life, not a commodity that needs some value to validate your life.

Here's my favorite quotes on "letting go" because really this is all about letting go and just being yourself. http://www.profound-self-help.com/letting-go.html

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Ron