blue, i'm sorry that happened. it is really hard to not attend these events. I feel selfish and stupid for not going, so I don't think it's just about fulfilling expectations, is that oversimplying? I wonder if it would be easier with a friend/bodyguard running interference for us, I feel that's what I need with my family, seriously. Some big dude. Would that be great? "Miss hankster wants you to leave her alone now, buddy."