1. Was I wrong to say 'suicide is always an option', even though I wasn't feeling suicidal at that time?

If that is how you feel that is called honesty and I think that is always the best policy. You were clear that you were not feeling suicidal at the time and needed no additional help.

I worked on a suicide crisis line and the only time you called the authorities was if somebody was threatening to do something, had already done something, or after an evaluation was deemed to be high risk and could not be talked down. It is obvious to me that this person is uncomfortable even talking about the subject (maybe because she lost somebody) and probably calls the authorities whenever the subject is brought up.

2. Did the police have a right to bring my husband to the house, which didn't help our marriage problems -- it only made it worse.

The police had no right to even inform your husband. They most likely have broken HIPAA laws and you could sue. Just because the police officer knows your husband does not give him the right to disclose personal health information about you before he knows any details. It would have been different if he got to the house, you needed to be taken in and somebody was needed for the kids.

3. Heaven forbid if I was really suicidal at that time and all my husband did was go back to work and leave my alone. Did I deserve more support?

You deserved at least to be asked why the authorities were called. You deserve to have your side heard. For your husband to just leave and go back to work pissed off is not your fault. Honestly it falls down to the ignorance of the officer who called him in the first place.

Love and hugs,
Tara